Shifting Your Perspective

Updated: Aug 13, 2019


Passion and enthusiasm are key to a fulfilling life and you may not realise at first but the most effective method for incorporating those into your life is to initially keep change quite small. A huge change, like a big career shift or a big move, may seem like a grand exciting idea at first but soon the amount of work involved in making that big change can very quickly become overwhelming especially if you don’t already have a tank full of enthusiasm, to begin with. Ultimately this can lead to you not following through or even worse, resenting starting it in the first place and you may forfeit the idea altogether. This is especially true if you aren't used to incorporating changes into your life. 


With that said, change does not always have to come externally. A powerful and uplifting perspective of oneself and one's life will bring you plenty of passion and enthusiasm. 


Take a look at your life, take a look at all the things you have surrounding you, what are you grateful for? What do you value? Are there things within your life that already bring you joy, happiness, and excitement? What are some small ‘wins’ you can choose to celebrate? 


Maybe it's a glorious tasting meal you cooked that evening. A beautiful sunset at the end of the day. Waking up in the morning beside the one you love. That first sip of morning coffee.

These small excitements are your life in miniature, pay attention to them, add them all up and maybe you will start to see things a little differently. You will start to shift your perspective.


In the end, that's what it all boils down to; your perspective of the life you live, so it's up to you to shift it.


PODCAST TRANSCRIPTION #002

Matthew  

Hello, and welcome….


Ellen  

Hello! Oh no I messed it up! Haha. It's okay, it's all part of it.


Matthew  

… Hello, and welcome to Episode Two of Foxes Collide. My name is Matthew. 


Ellen  

And I'm Ellen. 


Matthew  

Are you excited today?


Ellen  

I am Yeah.


Matthew  

Good, me too. I’m actually quite excited to look back at this in maybe like a month or twos time and just see how we sound different. The intro’s probably going to be different. Just to see the progress.


Ellen  

Seeing how far we've come. 


Matthew

It's going to be quite fun.


Ellen

From learning to speak on a microphone and put ourselves out there. I think it's going to come along quicker than we realise and it's something to be excited about. To see how we can grow from it.


Matthew  

I think that's where we're going to spin-off from. Talking about enthusiasm and passion and how important that is in your life. I think when we talk about passion and enthusiasm and finding that, the key is keeping it quite small. I think when people talk about that, even when I've spoken about it, people immediately go to something like a career. It's like “how do I make my career my passion and my passion my career?” and that's great but that’s such a big change to try and make. I think one of the first things I did was find the really small things that I'm passionate about or the really small things that I'm enthusiastic about, and just do more of them, I still had the same old job and stuff like that but I started to bring in things that made me feel good, before I made a big shift.


Ellen

So what you're saying is focusing on the little things to bring enthusiasm and excitement into your life and then they can gradually build up to be bigger things or incorporate bigger things. So I think I understand what you mean, like a lot of people go from nowhere to wanting to have this massive thing, which is going to bring them all this excitement, and they go, Oh, my gosh, I could do this and they think of these huge, like you said career shifts or a big move or something like that, instead of focusing on the little things in their life that could bring them happiness, and excitement and joy. They focus on big things, which could be a while away, or something really difficult to achieve at the moment because they haven't focused on smaller things that they can achieve.


Like the small wins that we have. The little things that we do during the day, the week and the month that make us really, really happy and excited. For example, the food, I get really excited about tasting different foods and when I cook a dish and it comes out really good and I get super excited, like the lentil bake that I made last night, which was amazing, and the protein that came today, that was great, I got so excited about the flavour. Just focusing on little things like that, which then all tie into the bigger picture and how we want our life to go and that quality of life that we want, and the little things add up to that quality of life. I don't know if that's where you were going with that?


Matthew  

Yeah, it is that idea. You can begin to get used to having those smaller things and bringing in smaller areas of excitement, especially if you're someone who doesn't necessarily have a lot of that in your life. I got used to being in that state and then it becomes more noticeable when something doesn't feel that way. And we've had that very recently with some decisions we are making about where we might be going next in our travels, and it's based on enthusiasm and passion and excitement and even though we might be making a decision that's going to be a little bit more demanding, it’s more exciting. We feel more enthusiastic about it and that's really because we've raised the way we feel day to day to feel more positive or passionate so then when something causes us to feel differently, we really notice it.


Ellen  

Yes, its really noticeable and you go “hang on, this is not my level that I'm used to operating at.” You're right, it's completely noticeable, and it could be a situation that has happened to you before but at that point in time, you weren't so aware of it. So I guess you could say it's sat comfortably with you in that lower vibrational state, but now that we're so used to being at that higher level of excitement and enjoyment when it does fall down, it's not comfortable anymore, right? And so many people I feel, are operating at that lower level but they don't realise because they're comfortable at that level and they're not used to having that joy and excitement in their life. So they don't notice it. But if they were to get to that level of joy and excitement, then they would definitely notice where they were, and where they are or where they want to be operating and how they can keep that going. And that comes from incorporating little things, little enjoyments, and then moving on to bigger things or incorporating them into one big thing. 


It's easy for me to say that it's easy to incorporate these things or to be excited and to enjoy my life because we've got a pretty good life. We don't have that nine to five, and the home life that a lot of people have, they're very busy, they've got a lot of responsibilities so tying in little things and adding more things to their life might sound a bit too much to people and they go, “well I don't have time for that.” It's easier for me to say it because I'm not coming from a place like that. However, I believe that even focusing on things that people are grateful for, that they do have in their life, no matter how stressful or how busy, or how many bills there are to pay, or how many things that they feel are going wrong… if they focus on all the bad things then that is all they'll feel and that's all they will see. But if they choose to focus on the things that they do have, the things that they are grateful for, the things that are abundant in their life, then that could completely shift the way that they feel about their life and the excitement and enjoyment they can get from their life.


Matthew  

Yeah, that's very, very true. That is definitely a shift in perspective and that's probably one of the first things I did, it might even be the first thing. I've thought about it a few times, how do you, as somebody who started to embark on this journey a few years ago, tell someone who's not on it, where to even begin? It comes down to a few things and one of the very first ones is perspective, and being able to start shifting it and changing how you view things. You're not going to put any effort into changing your life if you still see it the same way and you see everybody, everything, and even yourself the same way. You’re not even open to possibility. You have that closed-off view. So really, to me, I came up with two ways in which you begin shifting perspective. 


One is questioning, that's the first thing you have to do is just question, you question yourself, essentially, when you make that judgment on that thing, you've got to question it. You’ll even find yourself doing it on people. It’s not in a mean spirited way but you'll label a certain person a certain way, or, you find a lot with friends and family, you'll speak as if you know the person, and exactly what they're like. A friend might be trying to give up smoking and you'll go, “ah he's done this before, they've tried this before, they're not going to make it.” You've already judged them, you've already put them in a box straight away. Those are the types of things you get to question, you get to question whenever you make a blanket statement around something. “I can't do this” or “this is too difficult”, whatever it is, just ask yourself, “is that fact there is that opinion?” And you'll find almost everything that you think is opinion-based.


Ellen  

That's so strong. That's such a powerful thing to do. Questioning yourself. Question Am I thinking this clearly? Am I looking at it without? What's it called….? 


Matthew  

Dirty Windows


Ellen  

Hahaha, Dirty windows! hahaha. 

Am I looking at it in a non-biased, non-judgmental way and seeing the whole person, the whole picture without, like you said, feeling as though you know them?


Matthew  

Yeah, without your own story.


Ellen  

Exactly. Without our story on them. Because we don't know what they're going through. We don't know their mindset. We don't know what they're capable of, they're their own person. So questioning yourself in those moments. I find with myself, I've done that a lot recently, I've questioned when I've thought a certain thing or when I've said a certain thing about somebody or some situation. When I've questioned myself and I've gone “hang on Ellen.” Take a step back, is this right? Or is this just you and all the past, and every single thing and every emotion that you've gone through adding on top of what you're thinking right now and believing right now? So your beliefs and judgments are being shaped by everything you've gone through. So is that a true reflection or representation of that person or that situation? Or is that a reflection and representation based on everything that you believe, you feel and you've gone through? So looking at it without all of that is really tricky, but it can be done, and that's where questioning yourself and your own beliefs and views and judgments is so powerful.


Matthew  

It is and there's a way in which you can do it with love and with compassion for yourself. I think for me, my biggest questioning hasn't been about my stories about other people, it's been my stories about myself, and my self-esteem and my self-image. Having to question every single one. When I make a blanket statement on myself that’s not particularly positive, actually being able to question that, and say is that fact, or is that opinion?


Ellen  

I see what you mean there. I've had to do the same thing. 


Matthew  

Yeah, it's a very powerful method and it's one that I've not stopped. I started a few years ago and I just continue to do it.


Ellen  

Cause it feels good when you do do it and you catch yourself.


Matthew  

Yeah, you should.


Ellen  

And you find you change so much, by doing that. 


Matthew  

Just questioning what you believe and what you live your days with. A lot of it has come from somewhere else as well. It's come from society. It’s come from opinions that have been pushed on us or something that's not necessarily a true reflection of who we want to be. So that's one step.


The other one is to surround yourself with differing opinions. So put yourself in an environment where you are surrounded by people who maybe don't see the things the way you see them. Whether you can do that physically or virtually. I started virtually. I found people online, you know, who are spreading a certain message that didn't really fit with the way I saw life. They saw it a lot more positively. They saw a lot of opportunities where I saw a lot of difficulty and limits and through just sort of almost bombarding myself with that messaging, it started to get through to me. Then you, of course, attract people in real life that are more like that and you start to reflect that perspective and people are then attracted to you because you see the world differently to them and it just sort of grows and grows. 


Ellen  

It's so great. Without having those differing opinions we wouldn't be different individuals. With other people thinking differently to you, it opens your mind and it allows more growth within you, and more acceptance of other people and other people's way of thinking and believing and you really start to see everyone as another version of yourself, believing in something else, just living life a bit differently to you and it really does open that scope of what you can see. I don't know where I'm going with that. But yeah.


Matthew  

Well, once you've done that, that's where your life changes because it's all a reflection of your perspective. That's really where it begins and it makes sense for us to begin our podcast on that subject. 


Ellen  

Perspective, yeah.


Matthew  

Yeah, that's a really powerful one.


Ellen  

It is a great one.


Matthew  

Have you got anything else to add today?


Ellen  

Not that I can think of off the top of my head


Matthew  

That's cool. That was good.


Ellen  

Yeah, that was awesome. Good chat. 


Matthew

Good Chat.


Ellen

So stay tuned for another episode. I hope you enjoyed this one. We sure enjoyed making it. See you next time.


Matthew

See you next time.



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